The month of July brought many insights for me. It has been a month of rejuvenation, challenges, and creation.
At the beginning of July, I visited my university friend in a southern Mediterranean country which I combined with a client deep dive experience in a beautiful location. Bringing together my work and spending quality time with my friend connecting and swimming in the sea, felt like a dream coming true.
However, one of the biggest lessons of my life was about to unfold.
During my stay, I crashed my friend’s car. Physically, I escaped with minor scars, but emotionally, the impact was significant. The airbags deployed, and it was a terrifying experience. My initial guilt stemmed from making an ego-driven decision to go swimming every day, regardless of the circumstances. That day, my friend couldn’t take me and my client, but I was determined to swim despite an impending storm.
I convinced myself that I was an independent woman who could handle anything, without even carrying a working phone. I believed I was protected and forgot to check in with my body and my surroundings. In my arrogance, I missed a turn and crashed into a stationary car next to a small hotel.
The car and hotel belonged to Ivan, a businessman who lost his business and wealth a decade ago, and a year later lost his wife in a car accident. Now, he dedicates his life to spiritual growth, embracing impermanence, raising his six children, and creating his business from a place of acceptance. The kindness and support I received from him and others were overwhelming.
Ivan and I spoke for hours about life, creation, and the impermanence of everything.
My key insights from this experience are profound:
- Impermanence is Inevitable: Everything in life is temporary. Attaching to specific outcomes leads to suffering.
- Letting Go of Control: Attempting to control outcomes, whether for safety or success, leads to contraction. True creation comes from accepting impermanence and connecting with our hearts.
- Spiritual Humility: My “adult” tantrum of “I need to go swimming every day” taught me humility. The outcome of how the lesson arrived I might perceive as wrong but it may be exactly what I needed.
- Energy Impact: My strong energy influenced my friend to lend me her car, despite the inconvenience it caused her.
- Balance: Spirituality must be balanced with practicality.
- Unconditional Love: Despite the hassle, my friend and I are closer than ever. I felt deeply loved and supported by her, by Ivan, and by everyone in his hotel.
There are still significant consequences both financial and emotional to this experience. I am very happy my client was not with me in the car as she chose a quiet reflection time. The lessons of this day are invaluable.
Summary of Lessons:
- Mind, Intuition, and Heart: Keep them connected to avoid imbalance.
- Acceptance: Embrace life’s impermanence without guilt or blame.
- Action from Peace: After acceptance, act from a place of inner peace. Connect with your heart, listen to your intuition, and engage your mind.
- Remember Your Worth: Recognize how loved you are.
- Cherish Life: Love and cherish yourself, those around you, and every precious experience.
This month has been a journey of learning and growth, reminding me of the delicate balance between control and surrender, and the beauty of true creation from the heart.
I look forward to experiencing the amazing creation of my dear friend Alina Addison as her book “The Audacity Spectrum” gets released on 22 August.
Join us on our free virtual event on 20 August at 6pm UK, to experience the ADAPTAA team interviewing Alina in the hot seat. There will be fun, surprises, and prizes to be won!